Why Married People don’t have sex after 60?
(I was too depressed because of sexless life) what does a 60-year-old man want in bed?
Many people believe love is the most important thing in life and you can spend your whole life just with love, even if your life is sexless.
I don’t think so
Love is not enough, yes it’s important very important but it’s incomplete without SEX, even after 60.
People keep on talking that true love is all enough to spend your life happily, don’t believe it, it’s just a myth. In reality, you would be having a big challenge to follow it, almost sounds impossible.
A sexless marriage can develop because of many causes.
According to psychotherapist Tina Tessina, “The most common causes of sexless marriages (are that) one partner had their feelings hurt or got turned down too many times.
One got too busy or neglectful, or one or both partners has a communication problem of some sort.
Clinical sexologist Judith Steinhart notes that “Problems in marriage (like) lack of trust, anxiety, misunderstandings, pressure from children, all can affect a couple’s sexual patterns.
Few common reasons in Seniors above or 60 can be because of
- Age difference
- No interest in sex (one or maybe both partners)
- No communication (hesitation with each other now)
- Unable to show love and affection
- Retirement disorder
– I knew a lady who was from Vegas and she was getting divorced, when I asked her the reason,
What she told me
“Everything was going good before our Retirement, after the retirement, it went ok around for a couple of months.
But after that, we started losing interest in each other, we dint like seeing each other now, it was like we got bored seeing each other.
I feel like having sex but not with him.
Were they right ? or what else they can do without getting divorced.
What does a 60-year-old man want in bed?
I am not writing this article to keep you all in myth, which you read and hear and again get back to your life full of problems and depression.
I want you all to be happy and enjoy sex and loving life full of cheers and happiness.
What does a 60-year-old man want in bed (who are still romantic and outdoorsman) are
- They love to laugh
- Hang out with friends
- Sex with someone younger than them
- Love like kisses and hug through a day
- They are still idealistic and still believe that they can change the world
- They don’t want to share much about their life with someone else
- Love and companionship
I am sharing three real stories in this whole article and these 3 people’s stories dedicate to many people’s real life as these 3 are almost equals to thousands of people who have similar problems after celibate marriage.
What does a 60-year-old man want in bed?
I talked to a man who was around 60 and he sounds quite depressed when I asked him about his married life. He was not happy at all. What he told me
I am not having sex in my life for the last 2 years and I badly miss it, due to which my married life is going worst.
A few years back me and my wife used to be a good couple but not anymore as she doesn’t feel to have sex, but I do.
But as we love each other a lot so I never thought of having a relationship with any other woman or girl.
But my question now is am I doing good, because due to this our relationship is going worst.
I think if he gets sexually attached to someone else he might be happy and through that way maybe his love towards his wife increases and his relationship can be improved again.
Men love to have sex with someone who is younger than them, so this man realized and followed what I asked him to do.
He started dating a woman who was almost half of his age because he still feels wiser and experienced enough.
He feels difficult with people of his age because often their minds are closed, and such people cannot endure with a close mind very long.
Retired husband syndrome
Husband and Wife both should read it
RHS(Retired husband syndrome) affects both men and women, but it has been seen that women suffer the most.
Retirement can challenge your marriage in ways you didn’t expect.
Whether one of you is still working or you have both stopped, retirement turns daily routines, tasks, and everyday intimacy upside down.
Why do problems start after Retirement?
Before retirement, both were engaged in their work and had many things to do everyday which kept them busy and made every next day exciting.
But now they see each other all the time, which starts with breakfast and ends with dinner everything together, which is getting boring to them, and start losing interest in each other.
Space is the other cause while working they had enough space which now they don’t have anymore.
Problems to Men:-
Men after Retirement are the one who faces this syndrome, so no doubt they are also facing the trouble and causes of this RHS.
Effects caused by Retirement husband syndrome
- loss of influence and power
- loss of relation
- loss of health and wealth
- loss of public exposure and public contact
- loss of work
- loss of relationship
Men at this start feeling lonely and depressed and want to be alone and start over drinking. They feel like talking to no one and lose interest in almost everything.
Mentally they put themselves responsible for everything but they treat opposite others, even with their wives.
They start giving up everything.
If you are doing the same please stop everything now and think about it, that you can still change everything.
You can still improve and make your life and relationship as good as it was before.
- try communicating with your wife(share everything with her)
- stop all the bad habits
- act as you are still in the 30s
- go for vacations
- go for a consultation with a specialist if required.
- enjoy sex with anyone if badly needed but maintain your love with your wife(no sex continues depression)
- stop spending all the time at home with your wife.
- do everything you missed before retirement (for ex:- visit relatives)
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Problems to women
The problem starts because of the big changes that occurred after retirement.
Wives don’t have space anymore and they sooner start losing interest in their husband, which also results in losing sex interest with their husband.
A woman who was 63 had similar issues, She was one of the happiest wives I have ever seen.
These couples were very sweet and enjoyed their time a lot, they use to go on vacations and had a romantic life.
Last time I spoke to her when she was happy it was in August and then finally I talked to her in October things were completely changed. What she said
Story 3:- I don’t believe what all happen with me, how he can suddenly change. He doesn’t talk to me now anymore, he stopped giving me the money even nothing for my basic needs, he spends all the time outside and doesn’t like to speak to anyone
Well, what she tried and we suggested which is working for her are as follows, these things might sound normal and common but you must implement them before coming to any decision.
Relationship advise for women
- Start giving him space
- Don’t be around him all the time
- Wear trending Wear stuff like Freedom Bras
- Engage yourself with other people (friends relatives)
- Let him feel as you were in the 30s or 40s
- Wait at least for a few days for his call, before you call him.
If you are a woman and reading this article to know about your husband or any men’s desire like what does he expect from a woman at the age of 60 you better also work on your shape and appearance.
- Work on your shape, if you are overweight or have raw fat you need to work on it.
- Be well dressed
- Use fragrances that he likes.
- Give him some space and better attend parties.
Keep Yourself calm and be away from stress which will help you to make the right decision and solve many problems in the relationship.
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